©© What The Bed Said
Published by Reggie Radney Friday, May 15, 2015
Let’s talk about the bed.
What exactly is it?
Is it a place to rest? An enticement tool or device? A crime scene? Set design? Place of healing? Place for religious procreation?
The bed is more complicated than people realize.
I think everyone loves a comfortable and cozy place to relax and rest. The main place people do that is in the bedroom, or wherever there is a bed.
You can sleep comfortably in many other ways and on many other sleeping places or spaces, but the main place is the bed.
In an ideal situation when we think about the ultimate place of rest, we think about about a mattress, headboard and footboard that’s held together by a frame of some kind. We use and/or share this sleep furnishing as a resting place.
The bedding industry specifically focuses on trying to give people the ultimate resting and sleeping experience. They sell not only the bed, but all kinds of accessories for the bed and bedroom to set the tone or atmosphere that those that occupy, own it or otherwise use it, seek.
Beds can come in all shapes and sizes.
All kinds of things happen in beds. Nightmares, snoring, slobber etc, and really, just about anything you can imagine.
I’ve always been kind of strange when it comes to bedding arrangements, and for good reason.
Recently there was news coverage on a most unusual subject. They were discussing what the way people sleep together in bed says about their relationship.
They showed an image of the traditional spoon and the butt to butt-back to back sleeping styles.
But most of the time, nobody really sleeps like that regularly.
When people are in love and feeling secure you may see lots of contact and cuddling up etc. A bed partner may be feel touchy, so to speak, and it may not always be sexual, just intimate. Hand on booty or boob or thingy etc. Those things happen.
But all people who sleep together in the same place are not always on those kinds of personal intimate terms.
Sometime there can be conflict in the bed.
When tensions or emotions that are in question are in bed, it makes for some unusual circumstances. The way a person sleeps does become something more than only a resting style.
Some people sleep on their back, some on their stomach. Or how about the person who starts off in bed right side up and by the time everyone wakes up they are upside down in bed, with their heels laying on top of your face. Or what about rough sleepers who have violent turns in bed that sometimes land on your head. Or deep sleepers who somehow deaden the weight in bed and are impossible to move when you need a little space? Or the butt nudger who will gradually nudge you to the edge of the bed until you are about to fall off? What about the bed hog? Or the one that is a toss and turner who lands a knuckle sandwich in your mouth or on your head just trying to get comfortable, while still asleep?
Some situations in bed are tense.
I’ve been in situations where I had to put a barricade between me and someone to make sure I knew when she moved, because she just couldn’t be trusted.
Or what about the rogue sleeper? The one that sneaks around when you are asleep going through all your stuff? Sifting through your personals and pockets looking for dirt material or something they can get a hold of without your permission or without you knowing?
Or the scary sleeper, that one that stares at you while you sleep to the point where you wake up and can feel their eyes on you in ways that seem more creepy than normal intimate, and freak you out wondering if they might do something to you in your sleep?
It’s becoming more and more difficult to sleep with other people.
Very few people get adequate and comfortable rest.
All kinds of things are on our minds……. deadlines, alarms, schedules, worry about safety of the kids and self, personal health and many other potential stressors etc.
One of the times and places people are drugged most is at bedtime. Everybody doesn’t always get sick or die in their sleep naturally.
The movie, film and publishing industry business thrives off bedroom related stories.
Everything from Sleeping Beauty to Farrah Fawcett and The Burning Bed,
films like Consenting Adults, Misery, Unfaithful, Sleeping With The Enemy and all kinds of other portrayals are the settings for horrific tragedy that involves beds.
And of course the horror industry thrives off bedroom tragedy like things seen in feature films like ………..A Nightmare on Elm Street.
Freddy Krueger shows up in the middle of your dreams while sleeping and commits murder and violence that turns out to be real and then escapes back into a persons dreams. That film sent shockwaves through public psychology and the Horror Film Industry.
What about when the demon possessed the soul of the young girl in bed in The Exorcist?
Dracula was a stalker, a rapist who breaks in and enters, attacks his victim in her sleep and then turns into a bat and flies off.
Or what about suspense thrillers where people are awakened in the middle of the night to a noise that indicates someone else is in their home or their bedroom?
See, beds are also used to exploit the night hours, time, light, psychology and location.
Remember the film A Stranger Is Watching? It was a very frightening film.
Something about sex, violence and beds has been a never ending source of terror and fear.
It runs synonymous with perceptions we learn are attributed to darkness and monsters or some evil threatening force or being that endangers people when they sleep.
Another thing the bed is an iconic symbol of is rape and child molestation, including incest.
Most things surrounding sex crime or non-physical contributors like jealousy, envy and hate have to do with some thought, in some way, involving what goes on, has gone on, or might go on in a bed or trying to get someone into one.
Sometime the motivation for bed tragedy is revenge, retaliation or retribution. Sometime it’s just flat out sexual deviancy and predation.
The case of Ron Cotton involved a black man who was misidentified and incarcerated for 11 years for a rape of a woman named Jennifer Thompson that he did not commit. It involved a bed and bedroom rape, as well as a racial component. She asserted she knew for sure it was Ron Cotton and found out what she thought she knew for sure was not true. She altered a mans life, and it turned out she and the person she accused were both victims of another mans misconduct towards women. They tried him twice and reconvicted his innocence again.
According to information written in his profile from the Innocence Project, Cotton got a job in the warehouse of LabCorp, the company that tested the DNA evidence that proved his innocence. – See more at: http://www.innocenceproject.org/cases-false-imprisonment/ronald-cotton#sthash.QCj46pf7.dpuf
I was in college while Ron Cotton was incarcerated and the O.J. Simpson trial and other stories involving blondes was going on. And so the cultural tension was something that was exploited in public media and press, as well as throughout the college and university systems nationwide, selling the sex crime system of the future. The DNA based case law research and study system was being created and put into motion.
They were selling sex crime, date rape and domestic violence simultaneously in all races and colors of people. A lot of DNA was collected when people were in high school and college during that time. Like pre-collected samples. DNA gave them the ability to convict a blood sample or some other source of DNA as a John or Jane Doe. That also means the name, number or profile of that sample could be used or manipulated at any time.
In the South in particular, if a sex tragedy occurs involving one black man, they will use that as means to cause or create race polarization of all people.
The case of Genarlowe Wilson involved a teen sports star who was videotaped while a young female was performing oral sex on him while laying on a bed during a social function, consensually, with people walking past and through and viewing it out in the open.
The sentence he was given caused polarization throughout the country and between races, even as the person performing the act was black and clearly consenting. They said she was under the legal age by statute to perform such acts and he was punished as if he made her do it and was the aggressor of something non-consensual.
It was during a public sex crime trend in popular culture. Especially when it came to athletes and celebrities or wealthy and well known people. But the people from lower economic status were publicized and punished most disparately.
Cases like the ones mentioned are the ones that end up in the dirty dimension of bed life and lifestyle.
But when it comes to sleep positions specifically, there are other dynamics and dimensions. I’m just trying to clarify that beds are utilized for a lot more than only sleeping and resting.
The sleep position in bed is the most vulnerable position. That’s the one time when you actually are unable to defend your self, assuming you are actually resting and actually sleeping.
When you sleep you are in a rest and dormant mode of conscious unconscious. When you move into a deep sleep you can be in REM (Rapid Eye Movement). Where your body is resting and dormant and your mind is wide awake in your dreams.
Sometimes there is terror in your dream, or sometime it can be the opposite extreme and turn out to be a fantasy wet dream.
All of it can be influenced by substances.
The thought of someone doing something awful when you are in deep sleep is enough to keep you awake, even when you are sleeping.
A lot of sleep is often interrupted.
There are all kinds of sleep studies going on and hardly anyone knows or realizes it.
Sirens, alarms, train horns, car horns, vehicles, airplanes, dogs barking and many other atmospheric noises that can disrupt rest. There’s a part of atmospheric noise we learn to accept and block out, even as we hear it and what it sounds like may be going on.
There is a circadian rhythm involved with sleep. We are actually told when to sleep or not sleep throughout most of our lives. We have rest patterns and times that we sleep best and most comfortable in.
We have a nocturnal time setting forced upon us based upon what we like to utilize daylight for in socialization, work, interaction etc. You know, like Work Life vs. Personal Life vs. Night Life. That’s what the whole term “Nights Owls” and “Graveyard Shift” is all about.
Really, and honestly, most of the most horrific tragedies in the history of humanity really do involve beds and bed rooms, but again, hardly anyone realizes it.
Cases like the ones involving Mary Winkler, Jodi Arias, Susan Wright, and many-many more started in bed.
Something about the bed coincides with rape and sexual violence.
Or other violations like peeping, breaking and entering or trespassing etc. It’s very strange, but true.
In bed people are not only sleeping vulnerably but usually in a state of some form of undress, even naked, increasing their vulnerability.
A lot of people sleep commando in their birthday suit.
Have you ever heard of the case of Steven Avery?
A man convicted for 18 years for a rape he did not commit and then returned back to prison after allegedly raping, murdering and then burning the body of a female photographer named Theresa Halbach.
And there were other relatives were shown to have lied or embellished on the stand, literally, just for attention. Then after convicting Avery and sending him back to prison, the prosecutor ends up in trouble for sexual misconduct with victims of domestic abuse that he would exploit when they came to his office for help. He ended up going to some form of sex rehabilitation. It all involved beds.
They said Avery chained or handcuffed Halbach to the bed and violently raped her and killed her, but no one had anything to substantiate he did except the testimony of a cognitively limited nephew, Dassey.
Which was questionable because one of Averys young relatives made up a story and testified later recanting it saying she made it up because she wanted to be a part of was going on with all the people and the national news. She wanted attention. A lot of people do things like that.
She was a real young person caught up in all the hype of it. And apparently she was willing to sacrifice her own kin to have some of it.
Avery was in the midst of a multi-mullion dollar lawsuit for false imprisonment and other damages and Manitowoc Wisconsin did not want to make that payment. The Averys were a dirt poor white family with some property and a junk salvage and thrift business of some kind. They were easy to exploit. Avery was an exoneree by way of the Wisconsin Innocence Project.
They sent Theresa Halbach on that assignment on purpose.
I can recall how her family was impacted, especially her brother.
I have never said anything publicly until now, but I have always had some questions. See, after 18 years in prison they considered Avery expendable and they most certainly didn’t want to pay millions of dollars, which was something they had no way out of.
My birth city has been terrorized, for (literally) decades off bedroom related tragedy.
People allegedly being killed, slaughtered, raped, strangled, stabbed and more, in claims of brutal violence associated with burglaries and break-ins of homes and bedrooms.
I don’t know if you all have heard of Carlton Gary, Kareem Lane and Michael Curry.
They are subjects of some of these horrible bedroom related tragedies I have mentioned, and so was Jeffrey Dahmer of Wisconsin, who slept with the dead after he murdered them and had sex with them after killing them, some which are known to have been on beds.
When we see crime shows, movies and real crime scenes, the ones that really get everyone emotional day after day, year after year, is the bloody bed scene.
Things like we saw in the case of Tommy Lynn Sells and other cases where some invader enters a room and violates someone in, or on, a bed.
You can scare families in a wide spread way when the thoughts of things like that happening to them enters their mental picture. You can scare the whole world and everyone who has a home or bed.
At the same time, for some reason, people like and are attracted to scandalous or violent stories about the bedroom. They also enjoy the opposite, the romance, allure and seduction of the bedroom.
Stephen McDaniel from Macon, GA, a law student at the alma mater of Nancy Grace, Mercer University, was stalking and peeping in on a law student named Lauren Giddings, videotaping her in her room of her apartment.
He had a master key of her apartment key re-made and she was awakened to him standing over her in her bed during her sleep and was startled awake by his presence when she thought she was home alone and secure.
He says he strangled her, killed her, then dismembered her body. He professed his innocence and cried on tv in disbelief it could have happened as if he had no knowledge of how or why someone would do such a thing. He held onto that lie for 3 years until he finally confessed he did it. His parents were behind him saying it was impossible for the son they knew and raised to have been guilty.
It was a very difficult situation that hurt a lot of people.
A lot of death, both naturally and tragically, begins or ends in the bed.
The bed is the source of many things. Love, sex, sickness, death, rest etc.
The bedding industry is critical to furnishing homes now.
The police and all law enforcement systems track things like bed sales and what the bed is made of, but hardly anyone knows it.
Recently in Georgia, a police chief shot his sleeping wife in the back, twice, paralyzing her and he said it happened by accident when he was sleeping next to her in that bed with his shotgun.
I’ve always been funny about beds. I’ve seen a lot of bad things happen in and because of beds.
I’ve seen soiled beds, old beds, baby cribs and even people doing flips on old mattresses and bedding as a recreation sport.
You never know what all has gone on or in beds when that bed belongs to someone else.
Anything can be on or in a bed.
And all kinds of relations and/or bedfellows can have connection or interactions on or because of a bed.
In my home town they were looking for pubic hairs, pet hairs, head hairs, towel and carpet fibers, body fluids, or anything and all things that can be found on a bed.
I always chose to make alternative bedding or sleeping arrangements, or use futons and Asian forms of bedding. Or something that had a more natural and traditional nature to it, so I knew what I was sleeping on. Or else I’d just sleep on the floor.
Most people don’t even know or care what they sleep on.
I’m old school traditional. Any place that’s safe and comfortable is all good if you have no bedding options, arrangements or choices of your own.
I’m particular about beds in general. I’ve slept on beds, cots, hammocks, couches, chairs and more. When tired people rest wherever and however they can.
The scary things about sleep all starts when we are kids and hear about stories of the boogey man and things under the bed, or when we see images of women hiding from someone trying to get them or a monster or burglar waiting for someone to go to sleep, while hiding unknown underneath the bed.
The fear and thoughts of a scary stranger in your sacred home behind your closed and locked door, who comes into your bedroom to rape or hurt you, terrorizes people.
The very worst tragedies usually happen in peoples homes, but somehow were are tricked into believing that all the worst trouble is away from home.
There is still a danger element away from home too.
On occasion it’s true danger away from home, but the worst tragedies involving beds and sex related tragedies that make the most news are at home.
In the case of Kareem Lane, a school superintendent was murdered from injuries said to be obtained from a stab wound to this back in the dark, while in bed, literally, next to his wife.
In the case of Carlton Gary they claimed this guy was breaking in homes of old women who wore stockings and panty hose and were sleeping. Years would later tell there was no way possible it occurred as everyone was led to believe.
Often times stories of infidelity, adultery, affairs, rape and more surround involvement of beds.
The adultery, infidelity and cheating industries track who purchases beds to find situations where they can learn more about individuals or couples and their relationships, their sex and comforts.
As a matter of fact, if a good looking person purchases a bed they are literally put on a list.
If parents have a good looking child those people are put on a list.
It’s not always the case for coverage of rape or child molestation because sex predators are not always picky, but good looking people have a higher probability of being sought after.
The sex industry also studies and tracks the same issues. People who are thought to be good looking can attract more suitors and so they are a higher probability target.
So, the police and law enforcement systems use that kind of information to do what they do that involves crime and sex. That’s what the “sex crimes and sensitive crimes” unit is all about.
More people are killed because of beds than probably anything, and again, hardly anyone realizes it.
In the case of Michael Curry it involved a love triangle and affair at a hotel which ended in an alleged bush ax murder of his wife and 3 young children at their home. Bed related issues.
The hotel and motel industry furnishes beds and temporary living and sleeping arrangements. The police system tracks all people who use hotels and motels. Sometimes that’s a good thing and sometimes it’s a bad thing.
Sometime some of the corrupt ones help orchestrate tragedy in hotels and motels.
Really, if you simply think about it, the whole bedroom tragedy situation is mostly about betrayal and people sneaking around and being or becoming entangled in a dangerous act of violence.
This is used to sell what the church wants to show as infidelity, cheating, immorality, fornication, adultery etc.
You can cause a murder by leading someone to something they didn’t know was going on and cause what could be an act of situational blindness and crime of passion.
That’s why reservations and planning is a double edged sword in modern times.
Tragedy can be calculated, orchestrated and organized based on known schedules. Some people literally sit around and wait in all the places you might go, are known to go or want to go, waiting for your arrival. Indirect stalking and back stalking. Watching you, tracking you and some are even trying to photograph or videotape you. These kinds of people will pursue you obsessively and intrusively, and sometimes threateningly. Women do it and so do men.
Some people will literally stalk someone and then accuse the people they are stalking of stalking them.
I’m from a stalker driven hyper vigilance community. Stalking is a way of life here. One old man who exploits his age said “ When you’re retired you can do things like that”. So he was boasting about the fact that he had nothing but never ending time and resources to stalk people.
Do you realize how miserable and potentially dangerous someone who does something like that has the potential to be?
Who thinks someone wants to spend their time and resources using it to violate people like that?
Well, it happens all the time, and it’s also very sick.
All kinds of things from the “ho” house to the personal residences uses beds.
A bed is a weapon in sexpionage, sex scandal and more.
People are involved in sex set ups and sex stings all the time. People will find what will get you to take the bait and infiltrate you with a paid suitor who has you convinced they are the real thing. Paid to get you naked and find out information about your stuff and document and disclose it. What you’re into, what you like. What it takes to get you going and get you off. Sometime it’s for blackmail and ruin.
In one case in Wisconsin Therese Ziemann, Wendy Sewell and Michelle Belliveau gave a man what they believed to be some payback with the wife of the man, Donessa Davis. Tracy Hood-Davis, the wife of Donessa, caught her boyfriend fooling around and set him up to lure him into a trap. He volunteered to be tied up and blindfolded. Then her and her buddies collaborated.
They super glued his penis to his stomach while he was tied up and fled with his personals. They were charged with assault. It’s a true story.
More relationships are scandalized because of beds than anything. If relationships and money are involved, usually, somewhere within the conflict is a bed, and possibly sex.
Lorena Bobbit chopped her mans penis off and threw it out of the car while leaving after some embattled rage about infidelity. All involving a bed.
Catherine Kieu cut her mans penis off and put in a garbage disposal.
So this bed stuff can be complicated.
A lot of men commit or have committed brutal acts towards women and children, and sometime also men and boys, in beds.
There is something about disrupting harmony, rest, sex, love and closeness that is the source of incredible emotional trauma.
It’s like a violent assault on human sensitivities and senses.
And it can also make other people fear being involved or ending up victims of the same fate.
Bedroom issues rouse emotions of envy, jealousy, hate, distrust and more.
And there is an industry that exploits emotions. The “heartbreak” and “disheartening” industry.
The bed can become a conflict because someone refuses certain contact in the bed.
We are conditioned to believe certain things are suppose to happen when people are in bed. And so some people act upon that presumption.
I never made a habit of jumping into just any bed.
If you are in a bed you are automatically vulnerable.
There’s no way to tell what all people have done in a bed nor their intentions while in a bed.
One time I was dating a lady and laying on her bed and her young daughter came in wearing some skimpy high cut booty shorts and jumped in the bed. I jumped up and went somewhere else.
Let’s just say I’ve seen people do and say a lot of bad things. You can make something look like something has happened that has not.
In the age of DNA things can be in the bed just because of contact when no sex occurs, but can be scandalized to appear sex occurred, because a bed is involved.
Body fluids, secretions and more can literally be put on a bed.
Or the dynamics involving what happens in a bed can be all over the place. It can look like one act happens when what remains is the result of another act previously committed. Or it can be something from a previous incident, or that belongs to someone else.
We’re conditioned to believe you have to be in bed even when you don’t actually have to or need to.
A lot of scandal is orchestrated by way of the:
1. a person with whom one shares a bed
2. a temporary ally or associate
One of the most efficient ways to start a public scare is a violent sexual attack against a woman or a child, especially if it’s the child of a prominent person.
And there are people who pay for and orchestrate that too, sometime even against their own wives, lovers, children, employees etc. To put the fear of a living God and Hell in them at the same time.
The bed is a place where gender exploitation can occur.
A person can claim to have been sexually violated or raped when it isn’t true. There are certain things you can say or that are associated with a bed that can literally start a public scandal, just because someone says it, or claims that’s what they heard or that’s what it sounded like.
The accusation alone is known to be able to ruin someone.
If details are false, only partially disclosed or inconsistent etc, it can make public scandal.
Some people cry wolf about sex crime or other violation. But if that claim is made near a bedroom or a bed, it can not only be made to appear something occurred that didn’t, it can be made to appear even more terrifying.
Georgia is one of the American cultural hubs of selling sex crime, love triangles, crimes of passion and also a wife and mate killing region, that sometimes include spousal rape, in beds.
In modern day something as simple as a soiled mattress from urine, menstrual blood or otherwise, can contribute to a scandal or a claim.
If a person appears clean, religious or really innocent and liked, the cultural panic button will be pushed to inspire public hysteria and can, and will, be inflamed even more.
People who appear to be more faultless with fewer publicly documented faults against their image, character or reputation appear more honest. But they can also get away with the worst crime and exploit known knowledge of how they are perceived based upon documented knowledge. They can get awake with a sexual or threatening fake.
Then if you include mental health or illness as issues, substance use or abuse, or something that has contributed to an altered state of mind or something that impairs judgement or consent, obviously that can make for awful scandals, whether true or false.
Lots of people have been murdered and killed in beds in every kind of way.
Tanya Brandenstein of Milwaukee was shot dead by the father of their child (who was also murdered laying on top of her, by Darnell Brown.
Many moguls, millionaires and others have been killed, died or murdered on beds.
Beds are the scene of suicide, overdose and more.
It touches every level of life.
The death of cultural icon Marilyn Monroe and many celebrities involve a bed.
People like comedian Chris Farley and actor Bob Crane are amongst those who died in such a way.
Crane was beaten and killed with a camera tripod during one of his sexual orgys that he was said to like videotaping. Robert Graysmith, who also wrote about the Zodiac Killer, wrote a story on Cranes life.
Reporters and journalists have always seemed to seek scandalous sex and bed related stories.
And some have engaged in things intended to sell tragedy and blood money, even when some were actually contributors to the harm.
A lot of public harm comes as a result of beds, especially when people don’t even realize all this is going on.
Lots of people make a name for themselves selling or participating in bedroom scandal, controversy, murder, sex and violence.
So, beds are pretty serious.
Beds are scenes for the sick and wounded, and symbols of healing in homes, hospitals and other places of recovery. But they can also be the scene of murder by way of exploitation of health or medicines.
The panic and fear equation is as follows:
Bed+Scream+Blood=Perception of Tragedy
Even if it’s fake.
It’s become increasingly difficult to get a good rest and even as they are designed for the ultimate comfort and resting experience, beds remain one of the most dangerous and deadly furnishings in history.
In current news we see cases where trusted figures end up in bed related scandals, including comedian Bill Cosby and superstar athletes like Darren Sharper, Tiger Woods, Kobe Bryant, Lawrence Taylor, Warren Sapp and many others.
Celebrities like R Kelly and Michael Jackson have also been in bed related controversies.
Beds really are serious.
This information is for sleep awareness no matter where one sleeps, but particularly when in beds.
Most people are in beds with no self awareness. And many would rather not even think about or have to deal with the reality of the dangers.
Now that we are in a world of smart devices,including smart beds and smart bedrooms where electronics and other programmable features are included as accommodations and conveniences, it’s awesome, presuming things are ideal and inherently safe, but the reality remains that many will still always use what was intended to be for good, wrongly.
Most people who end up in bed related tragedies have no thought or awareness that anything like what’s been discussed is possible.
We see case after case, tear after year where trust is betrayed or some other circumstances change the dynamics and it goes from a place of rest and comfort to a place of danger.
For some reason, people just assume these kinds of things don’t really happen, but they do all the time.
When awful things happen to people it doesn’t matter what kind of bed it is, it’s an attack on sleep, safety and sense of security. And what if everyone’s preparing for danger from outside the home and the threat ends up being from parties within the home?
The shysters and tricksters are the ones who become most upset when the trick is exposed.
For example, people have to realize a person is only as safe in a hospital bed as the person or parties treating them makes them. Safety is not automated like people are led into believing it is.
What if you actually are safe and someone exploits your vulnerability during a time meant to be private and secretly photographs of by videotapes you during sex without your knowledge or permission?
A lot of people have already been taped, documented and exploited and don’t even know or realize it. Some don’t even care. I’ve seen both sides of the equation.
Hopefully this gives you a little more awareness of your safety. This is far from all the information needed to be aware of, but it most certainly will help with self awareness, which is where it all begins.
You don’t want to go into hyper paranoia and over suspicion of every little thing, but awareness definitely helps.
When something feels wrong, perhaps you should listen to your instincts. Many people have surrendered, disconnected and desensitized themselves from their senses.
Where you are in your room and bed matters.
And sometime that arrangement needs to be changed and modified so that you can be aware of your setting.
So I remind you, rest safely.
Thanks for reading from the Safety Line.